
Living with Erythromelalgia is an online patient support community that is powered by BensFriends.org, a network of patient support communities for rare diseases. Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.
Erythromelalgia (EM) is a rare neurovascular pain disorder that can cause redness and pain in all parts of the body, but most frequently the extremities, such as the hands and feet. It is characterized by intense burning pain, severe redness (erythema), and increased skin temperature that may be episodic or almost continuous in nature. The specific underlying cause of EM remains unknown.
Erythromelalgia may occur either as a primary or secondary disorder (i.e. a disorder in and of itself or a symptom of another condition). Secondary erythromelalgia can result from small fiber peripheral neuropathy of any cause, essential thrombocytosis (erythromelalgia can also develop in the presence of normal platelet counts in patients with myeloproliferative disorder), hypercholesterolemia, mushroom or mercury poisoning, and some autoimmune disorders. Primary erythromelalgia is caused by mutation of the voltage-gated sodium channel α-subunit gene SCN9A.
LivingWithErythromelalgia.org is a virtual peer-to-peer community intended to be a safe place for patients and family members as young as age 12, to visit for information, discussion, venting and mutual support. Members come from many backgrounds. Some have a strong religious faith, and others no faith; some are children and others adults, rich and poor, graduate educated or taught by life. Our common denominators are that we share a life journey, and we try to help each other.
How is Ben’s Friends Different from Social Media and Other Support Sites?
Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.
We’re interested in you as a person, and in your struggles as a rare disease patient. But we don’t want to know your name or where you live. We won’t even allow you to use your real name when you register for one of our communities. Because when it comes to medical things, anonymity is important in our googly universe. Your information is never shared, and your activity never tracked by adware.
When Ben’s Friends asks for the country and region you live in, that’s in case your fellow members can recommend local resources and help, and so everyone knows what kind of medical system there is where you live. That’s important when it comes to giving and getting support. Because we are all about support, and we’re all in this together..
Ben’s Friends: Safe and Supportive.
And anonymous to keep it that way.
Why create an account?
Posts on the different Ben’s Friends communities can be read by anyone on the internet. You can browse through the different topics and find most of the information you’re looking for but there are many things you won’t be able to do unless you create an account. These include:
Making your own posts. Although you’re able to find useful information just by reading other members’ posts, you might still have a lot of questions in your mind. Either you want to start a new topic to talk about them in detail or you want to reply to a comment on a thread. These won’t be possible unless you create a new user account.
Viewing other members’ profiles. Member profiles include information about the country or region they are from, whether they are a patient or a caregiver, and details about their disease and treatments. Maybe you came across an interesting post and you want to learn more about the member. Or maybe you’re looking for members who are from the same country as you. Having a user account allows you to see other member profiles and find information that may be relevant.
Sending private messages. Aside from being able to post publicly and commenting on a thread, having a user account also allows you to send private messages both to other members and moderators. In case you want to discuss a topic only with a specific person, this is possible by sending private messages when you have created your account.
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Latest Discussions
- New member introductionby kjonyx on January 16, 2026 at 5:53 pm
Hello, my name is KJ. I haven’t been officially diagnosed with EM, but I have been diagnosed with Raynauds. I’m unsure whether my burning symptoms are actually from EM or another autonomic condition, but I’m constantly dealing with flare ups whenever I shower, am exposed to heat, or experience stress. My hands and feet (and my face mildly) get incredibly red (to the point of purple in the shower), and feel like they’re on fire. My symptoms seem also to be correlated with an essential medication that I cannot stop taking, since they got worse when I tried increasing my dose. My flare ups worsen with alcohol and some foods, such as garlic which also causes my stomach to get upset. Elevating my feet tends to help, as do compression socks (combined with elevation). Cold soaks only help while my feet are in the water, as soon as I take them out the burning comes back worse. I don’t have any photos of my burning hands and feet since I make a point of hiding them in public and am extremely embarrassed by how shockingly red they are. I’ve included a picture with a mild face flare up, it’s incredibly contained in my nose and cheeks but it always burns like fire. I usually wear makeup to cover it so it is much more red than it looks here. 4 posts – 2 participants Read full topic
- Thank you forby Michelle55 on January 6, 2026 at 8:39 am
Hi to all who have replied to my posts. I really like it. Everything I eat flares me up. I am fed up because I have to eat. I literary cannot eat anything, it’s crazy. I’m going crazy and don’t know what to do. It’s our summer, and tomorrow it’s going to be 40c or 104F . I burn so badly with the heat it’s hard living. I’m at my wits end. I’ve got to go for a procedure end of month. How am I going to do this ? I’m very very extreme in my disease. Why am I kept alive??? 4 posts – 3 participants Read full topic
- Eating for EMby Michelle55 on January 2, 2026 at 5:40 am
Hi, Just wondering what you guys eat? Almost everything triggers my feet. Michelle 3 posts – 3 participants Read full topic
- Bobs protocol Michelle 2by Michelle55 on December 31, 2025 at 12:42 am
Has anyone drove a car after doing this? I’m on day 5. Feet are sore and painful. Michelle from Australia 1 post – 1 participant Read full topic
- Bob’s Protocol with Michelleby Michelle55 on December 29, 2025 at 11:22 pm
Why can’t we use fans while doing bobs protocol? Michelle 2 posts – 2 participants Read full topic






